I have another resource recommendation for you today: the Giving Voice to Depression podcast.
Here is the first of a two-part interview with Deb Sherwood, who was persuaded to hide the truth about her husband's death by suicide to "protect his professional reputation," and talks about the effect that had on her. In the second episode (episode 131), she discusses the universal struggle with what to say to someone who has lost a loved one: what was said to her that hurt, and what was truly helpful. Each episode is under 20 minutes.
Listen on SoundCloud or your favorite podcast app. You can find all episodes and learn more about the podcast and its hosts on their website, and join the Giving Voice to Depression Facebook page.
And here are the links mentioned in episode 130:
https://www.health.harvard.edu/mi…/left-behind-after-suicide
https://www.speakingofsuicide.com/…/keeping-suicide-secret/…
Thanks to Charles E. Kubly Foundation for bringing this podcast to my attention.