I expect a lot from myself; it’s true. And there are days, like yesterday, when that works to my detriment, because quite honestly there are some things you can’t make happen, however much you try. You only really have control over yourself. Maybe you have good skills, good instincts, good judgment, good ideas, and still your influence only extends so far. Either you accept its limitations willingly, or you can be upset about it, but either way, the thing you’re trying to accomplish might not come to pass.
I don’t mean to be cryptic. My mom was in the hospital and is now in a rehab place to get strong enough to move back to her continuing care community. But before she can go back home, the two agencies need to talk to each other, and I have exhausted all my avenues of trying to force this to happen. One side (the place she is now) is making all the effort and the other side is not making any. (Please do not offer suggestions of things I should try or should have tried; those won’t be helpful to me at this time).
After I broke down over my perceived failure at the end of the business day yesterday, my husband suggested I should talk to my sister, who said all the exactly-right things and made me feel SO much better. So the secondary lesson is to lean on your support people when you need support. That’s kind of the point of having a “village.”
I think you guys are awesome, and I hope my pain can save you from some of your own. Thank you to Instagrammer @tutu_mora for stating this so beautifully.
Posted @withregram • @tutu_mora: “There is a time and place for doing more than what is asked of us, for going the extra mile...many of us wouldn’t be where we are if we simply floated through life or someone had not gone above and beyond for us. But it’s so important (at least some of the time) to give ourselves permission to simply show up as is.”
